Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Summer 2013 Reflections

A Reflection Paper on Sociology of Communication 

   Back to my earlier education and formations, I had been, just like most of us, bombarded with so many answers to so many questions. Upon knowing these and that, we would feel so smart. But when we go to the community and when we are being faced with complicated true-to-life circumstances, we would hear others asking us questions we’ve never heard before, and even arrive at the crossroads of our lives that we began asking ourselves confusing questions and we don’t know how to respond. From there we found ourselves searching for meaning. 

  Sociology is also being viewed as a study of relationship among systems and entities in our society. Communication is relationship too. The best graphics are created not by the mind alone but with the heart. The graphics have emotions on them. 

  Sociology of Communication is made up of images created by the mind as influenced by the heart’s emotions. According to Fr. Francis Lucas, old books would traditionally define it to be process of using signs and symbols. Sign indicates something else. It points to a particular concept or idea but it is not the thing itself. Meanwhile, symbol has meaning of its self. Sound is a sign. The notes and g-clef are symbols. However, what would be the most appropriate word is “image.” Image implies something bigger and deeper. It goes beyond signs and symbols. It involves even feelings and imagination. 

  Social Communication is anything we say. Mass media refers to instruments, means, technologies and programs as diffusion channels of communication. It is the amplification of bits and pieces of reality. 

   Academics are just part and parcel of what we are doing in action. We study communication and when we really start immersing ourselves into it, we found ourselves realizing that everything is communication. Sociology of Communication is conveying the reality of life. We had been given by the academe so many technical ways of defining communication but basically communication is sharing. We are senders and receivers at the same time. This is not about information alone. The power is actually experienced from having the right information in the right time for the right purpose. 

    One of the things that struck me was the discussion about self-talk. It is the inner speech that includes the questions and comments we made to ourselves. It is a powerful influence that we can use in thinking things through, in interpreting events and messages of others, and in responding to experience. 

    In studying about communication, it is important and life-changing to include the concept of self-talk. Positive self-talk increases focus, concentration and performance. When you stay encouraged and positive, your body will feel good. But if you believe you cannot do something, your brain will tell your body and it will shut down. 

     In communicating, knowing the factor of double image is also important. It depends on where our focus is. It is part of our perception. The angle that we see depends on where we are coming from. In media, it is known as the spin. Perception process is the process we use to assign meaning to data about ourselves and the world around us. Our perception is actually influenced by intensity, repetition, uniqueness, and relevance which are affected by interest, needs and motivations. 

    Mass media controls the mind and the heart. It can be very effective teacher and preacher. It has massive reach, deep impact and can attack the psyche. It can easily change the social behavior. In the negative side of it, it can be a very effective ‘rapist.’ It can corrupt the mind. It can promote negative values. Our mirror neurons can lead us to imitate and to be engaged in the feelings and actions of what we are watching. The web and the internet expert can use our mirror neurons to lead us to the way where they would want us to go. 

    But what is the key to any communication media is its soul. Man’s disposition should be expressed. For the soul to be committed to something, for it not to be empty and be rattled easily, it should have its purpose. What do we communicate? What do we give to the society? The global trends now are modern slavery, destruction of the natural resources and biodiversity, cancerous growth of urban centers of power and prestige and disintegration of families and community. It is a generation without parents, the third wave generation of digital age but a world with losing of much spiritual values. Inequity and disunity enhance moral crisis. It is the bankruptcy of morality that creates so much violence, pain and death. It happens when people start to misunderstand, and resort to war and conflict and turned lives into nothing but just collateral damage. It’s about time that we communicate for the purpose of building faith communities, authentic relationship, sustainable development and collective successes. 

    The world today has become richer than any other time. But we have so many poor compared to any other period of our history too. It seemed that we live in a world of contradiction. What do we say about poverty? We call it a state, and we try to compute it, but our problem is that we just define poverty and not really feel it. Have we asked how the poor feel, and really see them and understand them? Social communication is going beyond defining what’s going on with our society. It is not just making reports, statistics, and action plan. Social Participation is empowering the people how to decide and not just giving choices. On a personal level, I should get more into the habit of analyzing not only what to decide but how to decide. We should look at the reality and listen and feel the situation of others so that it will penetrate in our hearts too and make our communication a part of the solution to the problems of the world.

Communication for Development Summer Class 2013
Asian Social Institute

Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Excerpt from "How He Marked My Life"

It took me several weeks of feeling empty and lonely before I realized that I had mistaken the attention given of the new soul to being loved. I thought I had been a resilient person;that I was able to process every good and negative thing that had happened to me and so it will not hamper my present and my future anymore. I thought I had been reflecting enough so how could I fall on the same trap and have same wounds again--- though this is not exactly the same wounds because this time it is deeper.

I was wrong to think that there was magic between us. The world did not conspire and it will never be because the new soul is unwilling to act upon solutions. The new soul has only been contented going through the darkness, recognizing the confusion and attempting to express it vaguely and then confused another soul. And then the other soul went through the same darkness, confusion and expression--- as she is unconsciously in need of something that had never been completely processed.The other soul had thought she had only been a listener and just being authentic but in the profounder sense it is more of giving in to her vulnerabilities. It was that sense of seeking and then sense of being needed that draw the souls towards each other but instead of finding meaning and enlightenment, the souls ended up being lost.

It took much time, a good book from Miller, a travel, and a lot of in-depth conversations and reflections for a person like me who was appearing empty and lonely too and who had filled in an unspoken need just to realize that I was already falling in to a form of an enabling-dependent relationship. At the beginning, it felt so good and the grasp of the new kind of could- be- happiness is making the id produce the concept that the feeling is right. But the new soul’s less concern to the effect it had made to the other soul---to my soul--- is simply killing the other and even the realization is causing devastating effects that is aching to the chest, hurting to the ego and dimming to the pathway. And there is no other way now but to trust in the self that it will be stronger and that it will be alright soon; for I know that I have to honestly go through this process if I want true liberation and learning.

Followers